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Hospital shambles

November 27, 2009 · 14 Comments

I spent about 6 hours yesterday sitting in A&E of the Royal Infirmary with my dad from 6am to 12noon.

Not once did anyone use the antibacterial handwash in his bay. Not once. But then it was empty so they wouldn’t have had much joy anyway. I did ask a few folk if they’d give me a new one but no joy.

Dad was hooked up to 15 minute blood pressure which was taken automatically, along with his oxygen level and resps. From time to time a nurse had to come in and write these figures down. Most of the time they didn’t say a word to my Dad. No “How are you?” No “I’m just taking a note of this for your file.” No “Everything is looking fine, don’t worry.” No “Can you get you anything?” No nursing. Just note-taking.

At around 8am Dad decided it was breakfast time.  I asked a nurse if it was okay to get him a coffee from the machine in the waiting room. “No,” she replied, “we’ll get it. Just give me a minute.”  An hour later I asked the same nurse if he could get a drink as he suffers from dehydration occasionally and is diabetic.  ”Here’s a cup of water.”  At 10am I asked a nurse who had come to write things down again if they ever got breakfast in this place.  (For I’m pretty sure all the nurses did.) “Only if they are well enough to eat and drink,” was the reply.  ”Well, he is,” I said. “<Sigh> Alright, I’ll get someone to get it for him. Toast ok? Coffee?”  A young smiley nurse brought it to us 10 minutes later. I didn’t see anyone else being offered anything and not all of them were on death’s door. Far from it, as far as I could see. No wonder they are ill.

The doctor was called away 3 times in the course of speaking to us. I have no complaint about that. There were other sick people. He always came back, sometimes after an hour, and apologised. (Dad thought he was too young to be a consultant!)

Dad was to be kept in for observation for it may have been a heart attack but there were no beds.  We were told we’d just have to wait.  But then someone came in who was quite poorly so dad was put out of his cubicle and parked beside the nurses bay in the corridor.  He was meant to be on oxygen but the nurse who was going to get some portable oxygen never returned.

In the course of our time there I watched nurses deal with a drug overdose patient hand-cuffed to 2 policemen. They wore gloves while dealing with her but then would come out and answer the phone while wearing the gloves. What about the next person who picks up with phone without gloves?

I saw lots of things. What I didn’t see was nursing. What I didn’t see was caring.

Is that too harsh?  Were they busy? Yes, I’d say they were kept pretty busy.  But how much longer would it have taken to talk while doing the blood-taking, or the ECG, or pillow plumping – oh sorry, I forgot, there were no pillows. A shortage.  I didn’t see hand-holding, reassuring arms round shoulders, listening. Too busy to listen perhaps? A listening shortage.  I saw nurses deal with a patient and go back to the computer screens and stand and click the mouse until the next task. Filling in on-line forms? Possibly. But most of the time they didn’t type anything, just stood and swirled the mouse around while looking about – but never catching a relative’s eye.

I realise that emergency medicine is different from ward nursing. But I don’t accept that they are too busy to talk and reassure. And I don’t accept that a system can’t be put in place that someone makes breakfast for those in the emergency ward. For they were not all emergencies, as far as I could see.

Bring back Matron. Not to swish around checking the nurses are all working. No, a Matron who walks round the beds asking the patients if everything is okay.

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Arrivaderci Roma

September 11, 2009 · 3 Comments

Just back from a quick birthday jaunt to Rome with Son #2. It was gloriouso in every way, not to mention very scorchio. there is not a sight that has not been seen and photographed from every angle by said son.  I have been to Rome before – just for the day many, many years ago with Brother Basil and two friends and we ‘did’ St Peter’s and the Vatican Museum. I remember coming away impressed and with fresco neck. This time it was less of the religious stuff and more of the ruins although many churches were visited en route. And Son #2 did want to do St P and Vatican so I was delighted to do it again. Much has changed, not least the amount of people and the noise.

But for now I must leave you with that tantalising tease for I must sleep before the parish outing to Lindisfarne tomorrow.

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Birdsong in the loo and Inheritance Tracks

August 29, 2009 · 9 Comments

Just heard Lisa Tarbuck on radio this morning saying she was somewhere this week where the Ladies loo played birdsong when you shut the door. She loved it and so do I. What a brilliant idea.

Was also contemplating my Inheritance Tracks this morning too, courtesy of Radio 4. You know, what song did you inherit from your parents?  And what song will you pass on to your children?

My dad’s inheritance track is easy. Eine Kleine Nachtmusik. Dad plays the piano by ear (yes, we know all the jokes) and he loved Mozart and this was his fave. He also loved Jesu Joy of Man’s Desiring so all my memories with Dad are of light classical music. I remember he had one of those 8-track machines in one of his sporty cars but you know I can’t for the life of me remember what was on them.

My mum wasn’t a great music lover or at least I don’t remember any particular favourites. She used to tell me that she loved Hoagie Carmichael and that Dad used to play The Old Music Master to her on the piano but she never had any albums or anything until we bought them for her. We had the radio on on Sunday afternoons when Mum did the washing and I know she loved Johnny Mathis, Nat King Cole and others of a similar ilk but I don’t remember any specific songs she liked. For some reason Those Boots Were Made For Walking by Nancy Sinatra sticks out in my mind because I remember laughing hysterically to her dancing to it in the kitchen, so that always makes me think of her. Then years later she became a big Queen fan and loved Bohemian Rhapsody but suspect she never listened to all the music we bought her when she was on her own.

The Inheritance Track I shall pass on to my boys will  probably be something by Bowie. No one track, I don’t think, so it would have to be an album – perhaps Hunky Dory.  They might also remember fondly Lou Reed’s Transformer and Carole King’s Tapestry because I know they know all the words still today. That’s the sign of a classic.

So what track did you inherit and what are you passing on?

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Swine flu or side effects?

July 24, 2009 · 7 Comments

Son #2 has been on the Champix to give up smoking for 2 weeks now. His side effects have been worse than mine and he even had to take a couple of days off work last week. After that people in his office went off with Swine Flu and now a whole department has been quarantined. It was only yesterday when someone asked him what the side effects were that they discovered they were the same as the Swine Flu symptoms. He was told to phone his GP and it now seems that it was him that spread the Swine Flu. Oops.  And he didn’t sneeze once. Turns out you can have mild symptoms and still infect others.

The ABofC has sent us out scary warnings about sharing chalices and suggesting that people only receive in one kind (bread) and that the priest alone gets to have the chalice. It feels like a step back in time to pre-Vatican II days. I still reckon that silver and alcohol can get rid of most germs. But in light of my diseased son I am prepared to use an anti-bacterial hand-wash before communion as well as the Lavabo. Now don’t say I’m not good to you.

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Day off

June 27, 2009 · Leave a Comment

My day off yesterday began with a little root canal treatment by the gorgeous Pedro. This was painless thanks to the very large syringe of something that was popped in to my gum and then out my ear via my eye socket. However the temporary filling has left a particularly nasty taste in my mouth, only removed temporarily by eating tasty morsels. I fear my diet is not going to go particularly well this week.

Then it was back home to catch up with emails and a little bit of work which needed dealt with.  Not to mention holding things up to be photographed and catalogued on Ebay for Son #1’s latest passion. It has got to the stage that if something isn’t nailed down he could be selling it from under my feet.

Shopping followed – a job I love. Then back home for a little rest. Had just settled down in front of the TV to catch up with everything I’ve missed last week, and was thinking what tasty morsal I might have for dinner, when the phone rang. Didn’t answer it, of course, it being my day off, but did listen in just in case. Thank goodness I did. For it was then that I remembered I should be doing Quiz Night at church in 15 mins.

Quiz Night was great fun though. We mixed up people into different teams which meant folk got to know others. And of course, we thought that this would prevent ‘The Foleys’ from taking 1st prize yet again. That didn’t work as Archie was still on the winning team. Well done Archie!  Even with the 2 disputed answers you’d still have won! Thinking next time we might do a completely religious quiz and see how things go!

Today is sermon-writing day for Family Service and 8.30am gang. Have been invited to Gay Pride march to take photos of a certain priest who is talking on weddings.

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Garage sale

June 24, 2009 · 5 Comments

Son #1 has finished his finals (and passed!) and is taking a year out before going on to do the Masters. (Scottish Lit in case you’re interested.) He is looking for temp jobs and they don’t seem to have fallen in his lap quite as quickly as he thought they would. Plan B involves selling his goods and chattels on EBay. It seemed like a good idea at the time. But this has involved raking through boxes in the garage and making a considerable mess in the process, hauling them all indoors to be photographed and listed, interrupting me constantly to ask advice – heh! what do I know?

I fear it will all end in tears. Or at least it will be me who has to run up and down to the Post Office. And just how much does it cost to send a book to Japan?

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The True Woman

March 22, 2009 · 3 Comments

Son #1 is living with me at the moment and is renowned for his home-made cards. We don’t always understand them, nor can we often put them on display for fear of offence, but it is the thought that counts, right?

Today I was presented with such a masterpiece. I should explain that he is studying English & Scottish Literature and on the theme of duality at the moment. So my card has this pic on the front.

truewoman

If you can’t make out the poem here it is:

This horrible double-headed monster,
passing, does it not frighten you?
However, o great beast,
your two sides are often one.

Consider this infamous monster,
who not does hear any reason.
you will see that it is woman,
who is an Angel in Church and a devil at home.

It is all to do with a common belief in early modern Europe that women had a double nature, being simultaneously angels and demons. The depiction aslo reveals a second contemporary concern: one’s inability to tell from outer appearances a person’s inner nature. Such concerns were echoed in the period’s witchcraft craze, in which fear of women’s potential power to disrupt peace and order manifested itself in violent attacks against them.

Source: The True Woman. 17th c engraving. In A History of Women: Renaissance and Enlightenment Paradoxes, Davis and Farge.

And it was in purple. Bet you didn’t get one like it! Bless him.

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The op is off

October 7, 2008 · 11 Comments

Spoke to the hospital this morning and they have decided not to operate on my cataract tomorrow as planned. I was up all night with breathing difficulties and knew in my heart that it wouldn’t be safe to go ahead, much as I wanted to. Now someone else can get my place.

I can’t tell you how disappointed I am that this has happened. It’s not just the length of time I’ve waited (about a year) but its about clearing the diary, getting cover arranged and all the planning that has gone into getting this op and recovery time sorted. I am angry and upset.

The plan now is that I phone when I am well and they give me another appointment. It could be months away and will involve more diary negotiations.

So, the doctor will see me today and hopefully give me more steroids and this time I shall stay indoors and not work at all until I am well. Bishop Alan will take the service on Sunday as planned.

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A mother’s love

October 6, 2008 · 5 Comments

A mother’s love is sitting for three hours hunched over a laptop admiring Son #1’s photos of India and Nepal. There is not a temple or mountain I have not admired.

They were actually Son #1’s girlfriend’s photos so I did get to know her better too. You can learn a lot from someone’s photos. She is an artist after all – and a good photographer.

But he still has to be the messiest child (at the age of nearly 32) in Christendom. Today we deal with the aftermath.

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Mum

March 15, 2006 · Leave a Comment

Well mum got home from the hospice the day before yesterday and apart from being tired and having pretty high blood sugar seemed not too bad. Last night she went down hill rather quickly and her blood sugar was too high for the meter (over 32) so panic stations ensued. Her insulin was doubled and my sister had to pour fluids down her like there was no tomorrow.

Today has been a day of doctors and nurses and insulin and fluid. She is very weak but that may be the diabetes. Doc said that she can go back to the hospice if my sis wants. We’re going to wait and see for a day or so.

It all changes from day to day.

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